If the voice in your head is constantly reminding you that you’re not good enough, thin enough, handsome enough, smart enough, wealthy enough, (fill in the blank) enough, you can’t be happy.
If you want happiness to stop eluding you, you have to find a way to be kinder to yourself. You have to stop the mean-spirited self-criticism. You have to turn that voice from an enemy into a friend. YOU HAVE TO. This isn’t optional, y’all.
When it comes to happiness, self-compassion is everything.
So here’s your Monday assignment: at least five times today, stop and acknowledge a negative thought you’re having about yourself. Write it down. Then, write a response. A kind, gentle response. A response you’d give your mom or sister or son if they said the same thing about themselves. Be objective. Be nice, dammit.
My guess is, you’ll have a hell of a lot more than five, but this ought to give you a glimpse at your own state of mind — your own lack of kindness and compassion towards the numero uno most important person in your life: YOU. Little by little, you can turn it around. Be patient. Be vigilant. Be kind. <3